Protecting your marriage from worldly distractionsWritten by Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg
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Don’t look now, but there is someone who is dead set against you and your spouse enjoying a happy, fulfilling marriage. No, we’re not talking about your in-laws or an old, jealous boyfriend or girlfriend – we certainly hope these people aren’t against you! We’re talking about someone very hateful, powerful, and devious.
We’re talking about God’s archenemy and the enemy of your soul. We’re talking about Satan.
Now, maybe you’re wondering, "What’s so special about my marriage that the devil himself is out to ruin it?" Here’s the bottom line: Your marriage is God’s creation, and your family is God’s joy. And that’s why the Devil is out to destroy it. It is vital that you guard your hearts and your marriage from the devil’s ongoing assault.
God’s design for marriage
Throughout the Bible, God uses marriage as an object lesson for his desired relationship with humankind. Solomon’s love poem illustrates the kinds of relationship God wants between you and Himself – and you and your spouse. It says, "I am my lover’s, and my lover is mine" (Song of Songs 6:3, NIV).
That’s what your marriage is supposed to look like: a husband and wife totally devoted to and absorbed in one another. When you love your spouse sacrificially and unconditionally according to the guidelines of Scripture and when he or she loves you the same way, you are modeling for all to see the essence of how God wants to be involved with us.
God wants your marriage to paint a true picture. He wants your kids to see a dad and mom so devoted to each other and to them that they say, "Wow! So that’s how much God loves me." He wants your neighbors, work associates, and friends to see how you humbly serve one another and say, "Amazing! So that’s what it means to serve God." No wonder Satan wants to deface this image by ruining your marriage – or at least keeping it from becoming all it can be!
Recognize the tactics
How does Satan seek to devour your marriage? One of his primary weapons is the godless culture we live in. There is a lot going on in North American culture that is working against the health and success of your marriage. And if you fail to guard against these subtle – and sometimes blatant – influences, this world will drain the vitality and passion from your marriage relationship. What influences are we talking about?
- The media. When was the last time you flipped on a television drama, viewed a movie at the theater, or read a secular novel that didn’t glorify adultery or an illicit affair in some manner? And even when infidelity and dishonesty in marriage isn’t glorified in these presentations, it is at least accepted and condoned as "normal." At the same time, wholesome, monogamous marriages are often pictured as anemic or boring.
- The lives of the "rich and famous," the people our culture idolizes and seeks to emulate – movie stars, television personalities, recording artists, and politicians. Yes, there are a number of people in the public eye who are known for staying married and remaining faithful. But these are not the couples who get the media coverage. Rather, we are bombarded with the sordid details of celebrity "bedroom bingo": who is sleeping with whom, who is cheating on whom, who is divorcing whom, who is having whose "love child" out of wedlock, and so on. You can’t get through a grocery store checkout line without the headlines glaring at you from the sleazy tabloids.
- Pornography. Countless numbers of magazines, books, videos, adult "superstores," and Internet websites promote unbridled sexual expression. Through it all comes Satan’s dark, diabolical suggestion: "Why work so hard at building a marriage when you can spend your life in pleasure with all these toys?"
Exercise guarding love
We’re not advocating that you take a sledge hammer to your TV, torch all your paperback novels, or swear off attending movies. But as a couple, you must exercise guarding love by holding each other accountable to verses like Romans 12:2, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
We are stuck in this world for now. But as Jesus said, we are not of this world any more than he is of this world. The distractions are strong and plentiful. But guarding love find a way to make it through together without being devoured by Satan. Solomon’s instructions in Proverbs 4:25-27 are key: "Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil."
Portions of this article were adapted from The Great Marriage Q&A Book, © 2006 Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg. All rights reserved. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. To order this resource or to find our more about the Rosbergs, visit Drgaryandbarb.com.
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