Conflict is inevitable: 10 steps to doing it right

“The first five years were the worst!” Pam* said, laughing about her and her husband Jim’s* somewhat rocky pathway to healthy conflict. 

“We tried the whole ‘don’t let the sun go down on your anger’ technique, but one night we were up until 3 a.m. trying to resolve something that we’d both forgotten about,” Pam recalled. “At that point we were both emotionally drained and exhausted and nothing was getting any better.” 

Jim nodded stoically remembering that night. 

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Q&A: Unequally yoked

Question: I understand now why the Bible urges us not to be “unequally yoked.” My spouse and I are not on the same page spiritually, and it’s becoming increasingly difficult to reconcile our differences in this area. What would you recommend?

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Q&A: Husband can't forgive wife

Question: My wife has always been critical of everything I do. After several years of marriage, I've come to point where I just can't take it anymore. I don't believe in divorce, so we’re sleeping in separate rooms and living separate lives under the same roof. Now she wants me to forgive her so that we can move forward in our marriage, but from my perspective it's not quite that easy. Her cutting words still burn in my memory, and I'm not ready to become vulnerable again. What should I do?

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Silent storm: When your spouse won't talk

Maybe you’re familiar with this scenario: Driving together in the car, both of you looking straight ahead and not saying a word. Someone apparently was in the wrong, and the other person is bound and determined for this fact to be acknowledged. Yet nothing can move forward because no one is saying anything.

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Words that bruise: Are you emotionally abusive?

This is the second installment of a two-part series. Click here to read the first article.

Jerry is always right. Carolyn, his wife, is always wrong. He makes sure she knows this. He shifts blame, shirks responsibility and seeks control, but still proclaims his commitment to their marriage. This juxtaposition of love and abuse blinds him to the fact that he’s an emotionally abusive husband.

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