The fact that money is a major stressor in marriage is not news. The way we spend and save can be a black or white issue for many of us. We think there’s a right way to do things (our way) and a wrong way to do things (often our spouse’s way). So it can be difficult to know how to get on the same page and be a united front when money – or lack thereof – threatens to divide your marriage.
Every marriage experiences ups and downs, but how do you know when the “downs” require counselling? Here are three scenarios in which we believe marriage counselling can be valuable:
Whether you like it or not, you’re being watched.
Your kids, those newly married, newly engaged or newly dating couples you know, and your single friends and family are watching how you and your spouse are doing in your marriage.
What should you say – and what should you not say – if you want to help your friend?
Question: When we got engaged, I thought my spouse could do no wrong. Now that we’re married, I’ve become aware that the person of my dreams actually has some very annoying habits. How do I deal with this situation? Is it possible to change your mate?