“I wish you would talk more.”
“I appreciate that you choose your words carefully and have valuable things to say.”
Of these two statements, it’s clear which one is the criticism and which is the affirmation. In the busyness of life, though, it can be far too easy to take the uniqueness of our spouses for granted and find ourselves griping about all the things they’re not.
If we’re honest with ourselves, “kindness” is one of the fruits of the Spirit that is easy to skip over. Faithfulness can be difficult. Self-control has its obvious challenges. Love and peace are big asks. But kindness is something we often take for granted.
But kindness, like any quality worth having, can be difficult.
The sentiment “and they lived happily ever after” never seems to include the how. How did they live happily ever after when happiness can be so fleeting and relative? Christians, however, aren’t called to be happy. We’re called to serve as Christ served. And for those who are married, the call to serve your spouse is even greater.
"Grief knits two hearts in closer bonds than happiness ever can; and common sufferings are far stronger links than common joys," writer and poet Alphonse de Lamartine once said. But is it true?
Many couples who have lost a child would not agree. Where does a couple begin? How can two grieving hearts find comfort in each other? Is divorce inevitable after a family crisis? Read on for thoughts on how to help your marriage survive, and even thrive, after the loss of a child.
“What if marriage was about more than just staying together?”
Gary Thomas, speaker and bestselling author of A Lifelong Love, is challenging married couples to change how they think about their marriage. In an interview with Focus on the Family Canada, he explains why this topic is so important to him and how couples can shift their understanding of marriage – seeing it less as a means of satisfying their own desires and more as an act of worship.