It’s one of the most basic truths of being a parent: whatever your child is going through, you are also going through. Whatever pain they’re carrying – whether it’s physical, emotional, mental or spiritual – you are carrying. We wish we could take their pain away, but we know we can’t. 

So we feel at a loss.

If this rings true for you and your family, we want to tell you that you are not alone. And you don’t have to walk this path by yourself. The following collection of resources provide practical help for not only learning to care for yourself in the midst of a difficult parenting journey, but also how you and your family can navigate specific challenges.

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Caring for yourself in the midst of a difficult parenting journey

Broadcasts

Finding Hope in the Midst of Raising Troubled Kids

Tom and Dena Yohe discuss the struggles they experienced with their troubled teen daughter Reneé, who suffered from depression, substance abuse and self-injury. They talk about the difficult path to their family's healing and recovery, and offers hope to other parents of wayward teens. Listen now

Finding Hope Again

Kay Warren, who lost her own son to suicide, talks about living with pain and disappointment, the power of resilience, and how she's learned to find joy, in spite of all life's difficulties. Listen now

Books

You Are Not Alone: Hope for Hurting Parents of Troubled Kids 

In this book, author Dena Yohe speaks from experience as she offers healthy ways to maintain your other relationships, suggestions for responding to friends who don’t understand, and ideas for keeping up your emotional and spiritual well-being when your world feels as if it’s crashing down. Buy now

Articles

Caring for yourself when your child is in crisis

When our child is hurting, we hurt too. If you're distracted by worry, or wondering if you'll ever find joy again, here are some thoughts to help. Read more

Wrestling with your emotions when your child is hurting

The grace of God will carry us and our children through the valleys of pain and loss. It is in these times that we become increasingly reliant on Him instead of on ourselves. Read more

How to draw together during tough times

When your child is struggling - with addiction, health issues, rebellion or any number of issues - here's how to help reduce stress on your marriage. Read more

How to protect your marriage when your child’s marriage falters

There’s no easy fix for a broken marriage, but there are certain things you have to keep in mind to not only help your child, but to also protect your own marriage in the midst of the pain. Read more


Resources for specific parenting issues

When your child is self-harming or drug addicted

Broadcasts

Rescuing Your Teen Daughter From Secret Sins 

Blogger and author Jessie Minassian offers advice on how parents can help their teen daughters deal with five common "secret sins" that entrap many teenage girls. Listen now  

Finding Hope in the Midst of Raising Troubled Kids 

Tom and Dena Yohe discuss the struggles they experienced with their troubled teen daughter Reneé, who suffered from depression, substance abuse and self-injury. The couple talks about the difficult path to their family's healing and recovery, and offers hope to other parents of wayward teens. Listen now

Books

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children 

Author Allison Bottke seeks to help parents and grandparents of adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, she identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage, and how she overcame them. Buy now

You Are Not Alone: Hope for Hurting Parents of Troubled Kids

In this book, author Dena Yohe speaks from experience as she offers healthy ways to maintain your other relationships, suggestions for responding to friends who don’t understand, and ideas for keeping up your emotional and spiritual well-being when your world feels as if it’s crashing down. Buy now

Articles

Helping a family member or friend who cuts

When Lori talked about cutting, she shared how friends and family can help a friend or loved one. Read more

A Parent's Guide to 13 Reasons Why

This free guide will inform you on the issues addressed in this TV show (including cutting and self-injury) in order to help you be proactive in talking to your child about these issues, and how to help your child if they or their friend have experienced this first-hand. Get it now

Q&A: Helping an adult child caught up in the opioid epidemic

Here's how to approach your child and get them to take a second look at their choices. Read more

The truth about eating disorders

Find help and hope in solid information and in the stories of those who have fought this battle and won. Read more


When your child is depressed

Broadcasts

Understanding Teen Depression and Suicide 

Bestselling author Dr. Gregory Jantz offers practical advice for helping parents whose teens may be dealing with depression. Listen now

Books

Is Your Teen Stressed or Depressed?

It can be a difficult task for parents to determine whether their teenage child is suffering from depression or just being an ordinary hormone-raging teen. Psychotherapist Dr. Catherine Hart Weber and psychologist Dr. Archibald Hart team up to help you tell the difference and take appropriate action. Buy now

Articles

Teens and depression

As a parent going about daily life, you might be watching your son or daughter and wondering: Is my teen OK? Read more

Teens and suicide

If your teen says she is depressed, she hates her life or there is no point to living, take her words seriously. Read more

Coming alongside a suicidal teen

Maybe you fear your teen is contemplating suicide, but you feel awkward discussing the topic. You want to help without alienating your son or daughter even more, but where do you start? Read more

A Parent's Guide to 13 Reasons Why 

This free guide will inform you on the issues addressed in this TV show (including depression and suicide) in order to help you be proactive in talking to your child about these issues, and how to help your child if they or their friend have experienced this first-hand. Get it now

When your child is the victim of sexual assault

Broadcasts

Finding Healing From Sexual Assault

Leila Sommerfeld and Kathleen Terrill openly share about the pain and devastation they've experienced as rape survivors, and offer hope to women who've been sexually assaulted as they discuss the healing and restoration they've found through the power of God's love. Listen now

Articles

A Parent's Guide to 13 Reasons Why 

This free guide will inform you on the issues addressed in this TV show (including rape and sexual assault) in order to help you be proactive in talking to your child about these issues, and how to help your child if they or their friend have experienced this first-hand. Get it now

Q&A: How do we help a child victim of sexual assault?

If you haven’t already done so, contact the police. In the emotional aftermath of an assault, the urge to deny what has happened may cause a victim to wait days or weeks to report it. Read more

What to do if someone you know is raped

If you are in a position of trust and are able to offer assistance to the victim of a recently committed rape, we suggest that the following steps be taken without delay. Read more

 

When your child is being bullied

Broadcasts

Combatting Bullies in Your Child’s Life

Jonathan McKee reflects on the bullying he endured as a child and the valuable lessons he's learned from his experiences in a discussion based on his book. Listen now

Books

The Bullying Breakthrough: Real Help for Parents and Teachers of the Bullied, Bystanders and Bullies

Jonathan McKee shares his own heart-rending story of bullying and offers a sobering glimpse into the rapidly changing world of bullies, bystanders, and the bullied while providing helpful ways to connect with these kids, open doors of dialogue, and give them the encouragement they need and the validation they're searching for, too often in all the wrong places. Buy now

Articles

Empowering your child to deal with bullies

As you reflect on your child’s strength and weaknesses, here are some questions to help you determine how you might begin bully-proofing your child. Read more

When your child is bullied at school

If your child reveals that he or she is being bullied in the classroom or on the playground, here are some recommendations to help you formulate an appropriate response. Read more

 

When children are impacted by divorce

Broadcasts

Co-Parenting: Helping Your Child Thrive After Divorce

Counsellors Ron Deal and Tammy Daughtry bring advice and insight into the world of the divorced parent desiring to raise their children in a healthy, loving environment, while cooperating as much as possible with the former spouse. Buy now

Articles

Navigating divorce: Your needs versus your kids’ needs

Here are a few common compulsions, according to Hart, that you may be feeling right now, but that call for caution for the sake of your kids. Read more

10 helpful tips for single parents

In her nearly 20 years as a single mom, Mary* found that the following strategies helped her and her kids not just survive, but thrive as a family. Read on for 10 helpful tips! Read more

 

When your young adult is a prodigal

Broadcasts

Loving the Prodigal Home

Pastor Andrew Palau tells his prodigal story of a squandered youth spent on alcohol abuse, vandalism, and a disdain for Christianity - and what his parents did that led to his salvation in his mid-twenties. Listen now

Helping Your Millennial Child Reconnect With God

World view experts Alex McFarland and Jason Jimenez discuss the cultural forces that are shaping Millennials, how the Church has failed to reach them, and ways to lead them back to the Christian faith. Listen now

Books

Abandoned Faith

Alex McFarland and Jason Jimenez's research and conversations will shed new light on what Christian parents must do to reach their young adult children. This book offers a strong voice of hope for parents, church leaders, and others who serve the Millennial generation. Buy now

Articles

Loving your wayward child

No matter the scenario, it can be a time of stress, anxiety and heartbreak. Here are 10 things a parent can do when their child goes astray. Read more

Q&A: How to support your adult child without condoning their choices

When your adult child completely rejects his Christian upbringing, what do you do? Find biblically based advice that encourages community and trusting God. Read more

Steering your young adult back to faith

Parents assume it’s too late to influence their now-adult child. There are solid reasons, however, why you shouldn’t hold back. You have more clout than you might think. Read more

 

When your child has an illness or disability

Broadcasts

Holding On to God When You Feel Like Giving Up

Popular blogger Rachel Wojo recounts how God has faithfully helped her endure a series of heart-breaking events, offering hope and encouragement to listeners struggling with hurt, confusion and their faith as a result of life's tragedies. Listen now

Articles

How to cope when your child is born with a disability

What do you do with the swell of emotion? How do you handle the news and still operate as a good parent of a newborn? How do you cope when your child is born with a disability? Read more

Parenting a special needs child

Parents to whom God has given a child with special needs have special needs, too. They have an extraordinary need for energy, patience, faith, trust, resources and relationships. Read more

Bearing the burden of your child’s illness

The good news is that God cares and shares in the suffering of parents who have received overwhelming health-related diagnoses like these. Read more

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