intimacy and romance
When was the last time you made your husband giggle to the point of snorting? Or the last time you got your wife to laugh so hard she spewed her morning coffee everywhere? What about the last time you two caught each other’s eye across a full room and shared a private chuckle?
If you can’t remember, you may be in what author Ted Cunningham calls “the grind,” which is when a couple feels stuck in the routine of life. But routine needn’t mean an absence of fun.
You’re equally yoked! Spiritual intimacy in your marriage should be a breeze, right? Wrong.
Shared beliefs form a foundational bond between you and your spouse, but they don’t automatically synchronize your spiritual steps. Not when you like praying in a quiet closet while your husband prefers sharing in a small group.
It’s not so easy to walk together when your pace is different, is it?
Date night. That weekly appointment you have with your spouse as a means of keeping things fresh. You go out to dinner, you go see a movie and you find just enough energy to get out of the house for a couple of hours.
Is the high note of your Sunday mornings a flirty exchange of musical puns with the worship leader? On Monday, does playful banter with your coworker make overtime a little less onerous?
Whoever says flirting needs to stop when marriage starts is so wrong.
Question: Our sex life has really gone south since our two children were born. My wife is always afraid of being “heard” or “interrupted” in the act. Again and again she rebuffs my advances by asking, “What if the kids walked in?” How can we be intimate and keep up a healthy sex life with children in the house?