intimacy and romance
You’re not curious in the slightest about Fifty Shades of Grey, are you? No Christian or self-respecting woman would want to read this “mommy-porn,” would they?
Or perhaps you've read E.L. James’ novels, convinced they've been the best thing that’s happened to your sex life since you said “I do.”
What are the risks and rewards of erotica? And is it worth it?
Question: My husband is constantly badgering me to have sex. When I respond that I'm not in the mood, he gets angry and tells me that there are all kinds of things that he does for me when he's "not in the mood." Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to smooth these troubled waters?
You’re equally yoked! Spiritual intimacy in your marriage should be a breeze, right? Wrong.
Shared beliefs form a foundational bond between you and your spouse, but they don’t automatically synchronize your spiritual steps. Not when you like praying in a quiet closet while your husband prefers sharing in a small group.
It’s not so easy to walk together when your pace is different, is it?
When was the last time you made your husband giggle to the point of snorting? Or the last time you got your wife to laugh so hard she spewed her morning coffee everywhere? What about the last time you two caught each other’s eye across a full room and shared a private chuckle?
If you can’t remember, you may be in what author Ted Cunningham calls “the grind,” which is when a couple feels stuck in the routine of life. But routine needn’t mean an absence of fun.
Is the high note of your Sunday mornings a flirty exchange of musical puns with the worship leader? On Monday, does playful banter with your coworker make overtime a little less onerous?
Whoever says flirting needs to stop when marriage starts is so wrong.