intimacy and romance
Question: My husband is constantly badgering me to have sex. When I respond that I'm not in the mood, he gets angry and tells me that there are all kinds of things that he does for me when he's "not in the mood." Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to smooth these troubled waters?
When was the last time you made your husband giggle to the point of snorting? Or the last time you got your wife to laugh so hard she spewed her morning coffee everywhere? What about the last time you two caught each other’s eye across a full room and shared a private chuckle?
If you can’t remember, you may be in what author Ted Cunningham calls “the grind,” which is when a couple feels stuck in the routine of life. But routine needn’t mean an absence of fun.
Is the high note of your Sunday mornings a flirty exchange of musical puns with the worship leader? On Monday, does playful banter with your coworker make overtime a little less onerous?
Whoever says flirting needs to stop when marriage starts is so wrong.
You’re equally yoked! Spiritual intimacy in your marriage should be a breeze, right? Wrong.
Shared beliefs form a foundational bond between you and your spouse, but they don’t automatically synchronize your spiritual steps. Not when you like praying in a quiet closet while your husband prefers sharing in a small group.
It’s not so easy to walk together when your pace is different, is it?
Date night. That weekly appointment you have with your spouse as a means of keeping things fresh. You go out to dinner, you go see a movie and you find just enough energy to get out of the house for a couple of hours.