heart-to-heart

 

Asking questions is one way to keep exploring the many dimensions of your multi-faceted spouse and to keep your lines of communication open.

 

  • Whose marriage do you admire, and what can we learn from it?
  • What moment in history would you like to have been a part of?
  • What's one thing that made you laugh today?
  • What’s one thing I did this week that impressed you?
  • What is the most valuable thing we own?
  • Which friend has most influenced you and how?
  • What's the silliest fight we've ever had?
  • How can I show love/respect to you when we're in public?
  • What do you most appreciate about our church?
  • How can I help you accomplish your New Year resolution?
  • What is your favourite way to worship God?
  • What has been the most difficult struggle in your life so far?
  • What goals would you like us to achieve before the end of the year?
  • What area of our marriage are you most proud of? What’s an area you’d like to see us improve upon?
  • What is your favourite summertime memory from your childhood?
  • What was your favourite chore as a child? What was your least favourite?

  • What is something you have always wanted to try?
  • As your spouse, how can I better nurture our relationship?
  • What does "quality time" mean to you?
  • What are three occupations that you could never do? Why?
  • What is your biggest goal for the new year? In what ways can I help you achieve this?
  • What is your favourite part of the Christmas story? Why?
  • What is the most generous thing anyone has ever done for you?
  • Who was your role model growing up? Why did you look to them as an example?
  • How would you like to see us grow in our marriage by the end of the year?
  • If you knew you could not fail, what would you do?
  • In what ways can I better support you in our marriage?
  • Are you ever frightened about the future? If so, what frightens you?
  • What are you most looking forward to about this year?
  • If you were to open a restaurant, what kind of food would you serve?
  • What would you say is your greatest achievement? Why?
  • When did you know that I was the one you were meant to marry?
  • If you could make a living using a favourite hobby, which hobby would you choose?
  • With what celebrity could you see yourself having a lot in common?
  • What is your favourite memory of your grandparents?
  • When you were a child, what did you dream of becoming one day?
  • If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?
  • How have you changed through our marriage?
  • Describe your current relationship with God.
  • What’s your most favourite date activity?
  • What do you most vividly remember about our first date?
  • What aspect of our marriage would you like to work on this year?
  • What is your fondest childhood Christmas memory?
  • What do you like most about fall?
  • What are the top five things you are most thankful for in your life?
  • Which literary character is a lot like you?
  • How do you see things differently since becoming married?
  • If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
  • What is the most embarrassing thing you ever did on your first job?
  • What's the funniest thing you ever did as a kid?
  • What are your retirement dreams?
  • What do you like most about our marriage and why?
  • What have you been learning about God lately?
  • What do you hope for our marriage this year?
  • What are your expectations for this Christmas?
  • Which holidays of the year are important to you and why?
  • What are you most thankful for about our marriage?
  • What do you admire most about each of your parents?
  • What things in life bring you the most joy?
  • What are some of your best memories of our married life so far?
  • What hopes do you have for our marriage and family?
  • Tell me about the first time you saw God's hand at work in your life.
  • What do you think are the strengths/weaknesses of our marriage?
  • (Ask each other:) What spiritual gifts do you see in me?
  • What kinds of hobbies do you wish we could do together?
  • What are some practical ways I can make you feel loved?

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