Question: As a young couple just starting out, we're eager to acquire good communication skills that will help us build a successful lifelong marriage. In particular, we’d like to learn how to make major decisions together with the least amount of conflict and misunderstanding. Can you help us?
This month’s couple devotional is focused on the responsibilities of marriage and, in particular, the thriving marriage trait of positive communication.
Maybe you’re familiar with the famous line from Jerry Maguire: “You complete me.”
While this is sweet and sentimental, it’s problematic: No person can ever complete you, and expecting someone to do so can set a toxic precedent for your relationship. But what about marriage, when two people are supposed to become one flesh?
Question: How much should I tell my new spouse about my past? I realize that honesty and transparency are important in any relationship, but there are times when it can be harmful to “let it all hang out.”
Woman, thou shalt not shovel. Man, thou shalt not cook.
For better or for worse, there are no such labour laws in marriage. Neither timeless Biblical commandments, nor contemporary Canadian social norms provide a recipe for the who, what, when, where and whys of household management. No formula, no code – no problem?