Money. It’s a subject that people tend to avoid. It’s considered a faux pas to talk about how much you make, how much you owe, how you spend it, how often you think about it and how it does – or does not – drive you. But the reality is money affects everything – especially marriage.
“Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my spouse to keep”?
That's not the bedtime rhyme you teach your four-year-old, but it should be the ditty that guides your married prayer life. To pray in a healthy, Christ-like way, you need to learn to navigate the good, the bad and the barriers you may face as a prayer warrior for your spouse and your marriage.
Question: I’m in the middle of a serious disagreement with my spouse about giving and tithing. Personally, I’m comfortable giving to the church and charitable causes when we have enough money to spare, but I don’t see any reason to get legalistic about it, and I certainly don’t believe we should place our own family at financial risk. My spouse, on the other hand, takes a "hard line" view of tithing. In fact, she even insists that the tithe is just a "starting point" – that dedicated Christians should make it their goal to give more than ten percent! What do you think?
If you were to look back on your wedding day right now, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?
Do you think about how much money could have gone toward investing in a house rather than in a venue? Or the drama of your wedding party? What about your first kiss as husband and wife? Or the wave of relief you felt as you walked back up the aisle together?
There might be something important missing from your nostalgic look back on your big day – your vows. If you had to, right now, would you be able to stand with your spouse and repeat them word for word?
The answer is probably no.
“I think when people first get married, it’s a natural process to turn towards each other and tune out the rest of life,” says Pam*, who’s been married seven years. “But,” she continues, “it’s also a natural thing to start looking outward again once you’ve had some time together.”